Gentleman Lost?

Chivalry is not just a fancy word with a neat meaning, it’s a way of life. More than a code of manners in war and Love, it was a moral system, governing the whole of noble life.

The word has again came under spot light due to the most unchivalrous tweet. It led to a massive storm in the twitter community and he apologised in less than 24 hours. But can he be pardoned for such ludicrous mistakes, time and again?

When this star kid debuted in tinsel town in 2002, me and my sister immediately became big fans. Ram Gopal Verma’s new prodigial find. Company attained almost a cult status. We also saw the not so popular ’88Road’ at least 3 times. Even though, now I think it was more for the horrific monster that Manoj Bajpai played, rather than for him. He charmed us with Saathiya but lately his comic side in the Masti series was almost all related to objectionable women content and hence felt lame. But that is the script writers prerogative. And hence he was excused. He was embroiled in many infamous controversies. Love is blind and can make you do infinite stupid things. He was forgiven by most except by the Bhaijaan himself.

I was actually myself looking forward to his latest movie outing. But this loutish tweet of a jolted, jilted jealous lover has brought new shame to him. It was totally despicable, below the belt and out of the blue.

Now, I know that he not only has poor luck and ignorance to blame for his failures, but also poor judgement on his own part.

He is now a father himself and has documented proof of working for women empowerment, as he himself states. But putting up shameful memes for women is the crude opposite of women empowerment. Hiding behind the mask of humour is not an excuse. He has made a bigger fool of himself by not learning from his past mistakes.

My suggestion to him would be to read his father’s book “Happiness Unlimited” and learn repentance and acceptance. He must find his inner peace and take guidance from his own family.

Why are men not able to take NO as an answer gracefully and move on with their lives and let the lady move on as well. Is it because Grace as a faculty is not their virtue. If he, a man of such high repute can post such a classless tweet about a relationship years from now, what is expected of the local lads who threaten their ladies with acid assaults.

The stoic silence of the entire family in question is commendable as they did not indulge in mudslinging. But they had the support of the entire nation to fall back upon. All the other regular ladies who go through this tantrum of ex lovers/stalkers/ irrational men must not stay mute, but muster courage and strength to publicly put those creeps to shame.

Chivalry is a lost art. And unfortunately, bollywood and our current stock of politicians have done the most injustice to the cause. Some of our leaders and movies glorifying the local goon behaviour are also in poor taste. We need more Mr.Darcy from Pride and Prejudice today than ever before.

A gentleman is not defined by the content of his wallet or the cut of his suit. He is defined by his manners and content of his character.

To teach our men to become true gentleman is important. Ladies, let us not settle for anything less. Let us pledge to insist on proper decorum at our homes, workplaces and otherwise. We can not let any co-worker or bosses or our boyfriend for that matter, get away with boorishness or smack talk. Only on our insistence and perseverance, can the era of altruism, nobility and cavalry of manhood return.

Being a male is a matter of birth; being a man is a matter of age; being a gentleman is a matter of choice.

Published by Amrita

A regular person. Loves to read, love and write. A mother of two. A doctor by profession. Ferociously enthusiastic, adventure seeker and lover of life.

4 thoughts on “Gentleman Lost?

  1. Well written but seems a bit harsh especially since he has taken down the post and apologized for it now, and possibly didn’t have the intention of hurting anyone. Although no denying that it was in very poor taste.


    1. For him to put it up in the first place is extremely dishonorable and he should be rebuked in the harshest of words possible. But I respect your viewpoint. Thanks for commenting.


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